For the sake of fairness, I consider it quite imperative to make what I deem to be indubitable assertions before proceeding with the original topic that necessitated this article about the knack to slaughter African Americans by white cops in America with no repercussions accruing to the culprits.
With Attendees of the Free fashion workshop which is an initiative of mine which aims to mentoring the upcoming designers.
The subsequent paragraphs to this one will most likely not present America in a good light hence the need to state that regardless of the contents of this article; America still remains the country that has offered most to humanity.This is the country that gave us the Wright brothers,Twitter/Facebook( gosh, how did we all survive previously without social media? I can imagine people enduring withdrawal syndromes if barred from social media), Michael Jackson, first black President in the Western hemisphere, Einstein, Elvis(I`m not an Elvis fan but he is still legendry nonetheless), et al. In the same breath, it is also fair to mention that there is no country in the west where a black man is more likely to be gunned down in cold blood than in America.That is the paradox called America.
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Winners and losers week 34…Omoni Oboli,Kycee,Idris Elba,Thisday Style,Annie Idibia,Venetia Okpofure et al
Did you guys hear the one about the 23year old prophet who arranges meetings in hotels and then rapes women thereafter?Before I say what I`m about to say, I must post this disclaimer and here it goes; No woman should ever be raped regardless. Having said that, I will question the sanity of a woman who ventures into a hotel room to meet a 23year old with testosterone the size of New York for prayer meeting.Prayer ko,ekpere ni! Why some folks behave like “aturu ocha” once you mention God beats me.Did the bible ever say get rid of your senses once any stranger mentions God?
Last week a reader posed a question.In it he wanted to know the usual atmosphere whenever I bump into individuals we have critiqued on this platform.Well,let me avail myself of this opportunity to address that.For starters, most of them are either acquaintances or friends but when I decided to launch this platform I knew I didn`t stand any iota of chance in achieving anything if I let sentiments sip into it.With regards to their reactions,it usually depends but here are the recurrent and most common.
■Some literally duck under tables.
■some blank me out or at least they pretend to because I know they watch every move I make (I love this group because they are unaware that I wrote the book on how to blank folks out)
■some are simply confused and unable to decipher the appropriate way to relate to me
■Some are still genuinely glad to see me and understand that someone has to look them in their faces and tell them the hard truth (this group take corrections and make amends e.g. Waje)
■Some tell me straight to my face albeit jokingly not to write anything about them and I always place my right hand on my chest while promising them that I wouldn’t but of course those are always lies from my part.After encountering members of this group I usually hot-foot it to the mirror to ensure my nose hasn’t grown a few inches as that tends to happen when folks tell fibs.The irony here is that while someone is badgering me not to comment on his or her outfits,it offers me the opportunity to have a closer look at their ensembles so ladies quit;there is no dividend in doing that.
Having said that, I must be honest and affirm that I don`t enjoy the fact that these ladies suffer untold trepidations whenever I`m in their midst as that isn`t the original intention and should never be.Whilst talking to an interviewer once, she asked “Do you know that people reckon that the fear of Emmy is the beginning of wisdom”?I was really shocked and saddened to hear that because as I have mentioned earlier my intention isn`t to cause harm but I’d rather have that than say nothing when things are going wrong.Evil persists only when good people say nothing.Imagine what would have happened if I hadn`t said anything about that horrible ass,boobs,back,legs et al which were showcased in the dress Toni Tones wore a while ago;it would have become the fad! I wish I could change my stance but the only possible way to make that happen will ultimately be to maintain the “see no evil hear no evil” attitude but that isn`t my modus operandi.I love and believe in the potentials we have in this country so much that I can afford to sacrifice any individual`s friendship just to retain the right to air my opinion.
I can`t remember the last time anyone ever paid my bills.Things are going horribly wrong in Nigeria and someone needs bite the bullet and deal with it and if that person has to be me then so be it.If my detractors will be honest to themselves for just a New York minute they will testify that this platform has actually improved the quality of their work,style and their mind-set in general.Personally,I have been schooled on a few things regarding how to deal with disgruntled readers as well.I`m always calm these days when reacting to their comments as I`m aware that I`m dealing with a chap/lass whom I have pissed off by my comments regardless of how truthful .As a result, he/she is simply pulling all stops to pay me back in the same coins and hence I try not to go mano a mano with them as I believe they will simmer down later.
This just randomly crept into my mind so I just feel the urgent need to mention it.Fashion community is not a congregation of the elites but of the creatives.The elites are usually a very negligible part of this community, however in Nigeria it is the other way round. Anyone remotely knowledgeable about fashion would attest to the fact that it took years for Stella McCartney to be accepted in the fashion industry as she was originally perceived as an intruder. Even when she was a one half of the duo of Creative Directors at Chloe with Philo Phoebe,the word out on the street was that Philo Phoebe was the one doing all the work. Now, I’m not by any means insinuating that all elites aren’t talented but what I`m just not happy about is that fashion has suddenly become elitist and folks whose background have absolutely nothing whatsoever to do with fashion are the ones that have firmly imposed themselves on the steering wheel. Does anyone wonder why we are sliding backward instead of moving forward? No,we aren’t moving forward not even by a long shot. Until we have structures in place and deal with the negative mind-sets people have when entering into fashion, we can`t truly be said to be progressing forward; we are indeed retrogressing but hey that is just my opinion. If you ask me I will say that the creative juice flows more in the disadvantaged neighbourhoods such as Ejigbo,Ikotun Egbe,Ajegunle et al than it flows in the streets of VI,Lekki and Victoria Island. Ok,you got me right there, all the aforementioned neighbourhoods with no exception are all disadvantaged as well except that the latter happens to be the most expensive ghettos on earth, Mars,Jupiter and Pluto combined where a plot of land located in an unmotorable street with sewage water spilling furiously on the road will set you back about a million USD or above. Unconfirmed rumours have it that a few eagle-eyed residents in some of these areas especially Lekki have already armed themselves with small boats to navigate in and out of their homes when it rains as the drainage system is either not adequate or non- existent. Again, this gist about boats is yet to be confirmed; No go talk say na Emmy talk am o.
In summation, I must opine that we have to put structures in place to attract talents to the industry not that I`m holding my breath for this to happen anytime soon.
Well,it is another week of fashion critiquing so let’s go!
I work with a lot of expatriates and I have observed firsthand, Nigeria’s glorification of white skin and our adoration of all things foreign. Now I don’t mean white skin like Dencia and her fellow co-travelers of bleachers inc, I mean white skin as in Caucasian skin, it often makes me laugh when I have to interface with certain government agencies and secretaries ensure that you do not have access to the official in charge. However return the same day with an expatriate with blue eyes and blonde hair, and the same secretary will nearly stumble on her heels as she tries to usher you into the same office which previously seemed like the CBN vault. I have a theory that this sort of behavior stems from some sort of collective inferiority complex or it’s a remnant of colonization. I have come to realize that white skin complete with the accent (not Toke Makinwa’s YouTube acquired Bri-Merican accent) does open doors in these parts and I will explain further. Continue reading “My Africa by Fabulous Guy” »
I constantly hear that Lagos is a “happening” city but the more I hear that,the more confused I get. People go up in arms whenever I say this but I`m gonna go out on a limb and reiterate it anyway. I never get deterred from expressing my opinion regardless of how out of tune it might seem with the general opinion.If there is anything I`m rubbish at, it is hoping on the bandwagon with no questions asked. Ndi Igbo sin a adi amu aka ekpe na nka, so it is a tad too late for me to learn how to synchronise my opinion with the prevalent one.On that note, I dare to affirm that Lagos is perhaps one of the most boring cities I have visited and of course what makes a city boring are the people and settings, hence I must add that people in Lagos are boring as well. Of course wherever you see bad you must see good and as such, I hereby state categorically that I have met VERY fun people in Lagos as well.I hope this deals with any misconceptions or misunderstandings that might arise here.No,not everyone in Lagos is boring but then boring means different thing to different folks; different strokes for different folks. Continue reading “Boring,boring,boring Lagos.” »
Just last week I went with a few friends to see another friend who lost her fiancé, she was heartbroken and we came to comfort her. We just sat down with her not knowing what to say to her to ease her pain. Eventually she spoke to us; she said she did not know what to do with herself again and that she did not know how to move on with her life without her fiancé. One of us responded to her and said “you will move on, you will be strong” and I shot her a stern look, but I let the matter drop as it was not the place to fight.
Why did I want to fight you may ask? I will tell you; you see we Nigerians have a false sense of resilience, a false sense of strength. We always pretend to move on too easily, we do not tackle issues; we sweep them under the carpet put flowers on top of them and smile. Guess what, long down the line the same issues come back to haunt us. So you see this is why I hated that “get over it” lecture my friend gave the grieving girl because sometimes we need to tackle the pain and take care of the issue. Continue reading “A People That Move On by Fabulous Guy” »
Winners and loser week 32…Mudi,Jim Iyke,Mercy Johnson,Lupita,Osas Ighodaro,Iggy Azalea,Nicki Mianj et al.
While flipping through channels yesterday I bumped into a press conference where the information minister Labaran Maku was expatiating on the terror victim support fund about to be launched by the President.By the time you guys read this that fund must have been launched. Immediately I heard this,I was excited but wondered why we never thought about this instead of letting our fingers run wild on our keyboards in abject attempt to sling mud back and forth.This is definitely a supreme positive step in the right direction by the government but that is where the good news ends.The bad news is that a “very devote Christian/muslin” because we all claim to be,who is entrusted with this fund might decide to grab himself a large chunk of it thereby ensuring that this fund does anything but trickle down to the folks whose emotional and financial stress it is supposed to venture to alleviate.
Now,I know this might come off as being cynical on my part but then only an individual not conversant with our modus-operandi in this country would view this as being cynical;I view it as being real. Off course my ultimate hope is that I will be proved wrong. Yes, this is the only country we have and we must show patriotic stance towards it however my dictionary just told me that patriotism doesn`t translate to denial of the state of one’s nation. Sadly,it is our nature and it is expected of us to become gluttonous whenever we are stationed in position of trust. Well, I can only hope albeit I`m not holding my breath that this fund will go a long way to reaching at least 50% of the victims.Why a low margin of 50%?Well,it isn`t smart at all to ask for what you can`t get.In my reckoning 50% is a success,in fact it is a monumental success and if we shoot above it then I will be more than elated but in the meantime the need to be realistic is paramount.
Recently,I did pen down an article about four young men whom I believe are the future of Nigerian fashion. One box these young men had to tick before I even considered inserting their names into that prestigious list was the “originality” box.In the real creative circle originality is one aspect that shouldn`t be compromised with except here in Nigeria and sadly enough the music,fashion and movie industries are the worst culprits.
A couple of months ago,I had drinks with a friend of mind from the movie industry and the discussion somehow centred on wedding dresses so I mentioned that I loved Toke Makinwa`s wedding dress as I wrote at the time but to my utmost surprise the individual pulled out her Iphone to prove that that dress was definitely copied. Seriously,I felt like a child who had just been told that father Christmas is actually the neighbour from the down the street and not some superhuman that brings kids` wishes to reality including dropping some thoughtful Christmas gift only mum and dad could have thought off down from the chimney. Why anyone would happily steal someone`s job and proudly receive accolades that accrue as a result of that stolen work beats me. We must always aspire to originate rather than copy. When we copy we get lazy and thereby stifle our ability to create something we can proudly own regardless of the outcome.
Again,I must stress that I`m not a fan of any terrorist organisation including Hamas however I`m getting increasingly aggravated by the number kids killed by Israeli bombs and the number of UN civilian shelters shelled by the Israeli army even after the UN had forwarded the precise location of those shelters. With my TINY voice, I hereby call for the cessation of all hostilities not that my voice amounts to anything, lol. There is too much sadness and pain out there and as a father it breaks my heart knowing that these kids taking all these hits are my daughters age or thereabout. This must end
To be honest I wonder why America supplies Israeli ammunition that will end up killing children. America appears to be talking from both sides of the mouth in this issue.On one hand they are negotiating ceasefire while on the other they are supplying deadly ammunition to the Israelis thereby escalating the war. Just in case I missed anything I need someone to educate me on how supply of more weaponry to the Israelis can lead to cessation from the killings.
Again,there is no saint in this war; both sides must simmer down.
Ok,lets so a bit of fashion.
I totally adore Mudi`s Kaftan top but the pants aren`t my thing as I believe I won’t look good in them.However,Mudi has made it his own and I believe he constantly pulls it off. So, to the winner’s basket I shove Mudi.
The gladiators sandals reminds me of the sort Jesus’ disciples wore in the biblical days making them as classic as can be and that in my books can only be positive.Actually,I love the sandals even more than I love the Kaftan.
Originality is life and I`m glad Mudi being a designer, understands and appreciates that.
Again it is thumbs up for my colleague in the needle and thread industry,Mudi.
A couple of days ago or thereabout I did pen an article containing my list of the most stylish Nigerian men.Please click on this link to read it if you haven`t yet http://diarybyemmy.com/stylish-nigeria-men/ .In that article I did stipulate quite vividly the criteria that facilitated my arrival at the names.Well,this morning my stylist Cornell of passionistaHub.com copied me on a tweet that contains an article which he culled from Birtish Telegraph newspaper.The originator of that article was super model,David Gandy.I rarely use the term supermodel as that phrase was fazed out more than a score of years ago.As far as I`m concerned the last super models were Naomi Campbel,Linda Evangelista who was once reported to have uttered the words “ ”We don’t wake up for less than $10,000 a day” and a couple more.However,if there is any model especially male that I can genuinely tag as super model it has to be David Gandy based on his versatility as this article indicates.
I was so tired after my 10km morning run this morning that all I wanted was to have my shower and a quick breakfast but a voice in my head said to me “If Cornell copied you on this,he must have his reasons as he comprehends how your mind operates sometimes”.Anyway,the voice in my head made a strong case in favour of me reading this article so I capitulated and read.
I must say I did enjoy reading it.How could I not have enjoyed this article when two of my all time best dressed men Andre 300 and Lapo Elknan whom I have profiled on this platform previously were mentioned? Hopefully you guys will enjoy this awesome article(below) as much as I did.Apparently,I and David Gandy do indeed think alike albeit he put his thought in his. own words as you would expect.
Nigeria is a country that is awash with talents but just about a handful of these talents get fortunate enough to find themselves in the limelight so it is absolutely imperative that we profile them whenever possible.
The primary objective of this platform from the onset has been to detect mediocrity and mediocre individuals who work ever so tirelessly to pass mediocre acts off as acts of excellence and then ensure that those promoters don`t breath easy.
In the midst of all the mediocrity that Nigerians are been force-fed daily, there are quite a few young men I have the joy to profile as originals and whatever limelight they receive on this platform should be termed as ‘deserved’.
I must opine that the decision to go with these 4 blokes was arrived at after careful deliberations and not just willy-nilly!
In no particular order, I hereby present to you, Nigeria, the list of my most stylish under 30s. I deem these folks stylish based on originality, ability to improvise to achieve maximum stylish outcome with minimal budget, flair, confidence et al.
The irony of it all is that not even a single one of the folks who flaunt expensive fashion items on social media made the cut due to the simply reason that money doesn`t buy you style;it may buy you stylish pieces but the challenges will hit you hard when you embark on cor-coordinating the pieces.
Some might feel the urge to dispute this list at first sight but I implore you to read through my reasons properly before making decisions;who knows,we might be on same frequency on this one.
May I also add that Ifeanyi Nwunne got on this list particularly because of the vast potentials I detect on him.
I would literally have to be living in a different country or even planet not to have read words of accolades directed towards Don Jazzy and the Marvin crew (Tiwa Savage, Dr Sid, D`Prince, et al) concerning the hit song Dorobucci. However, I`m experienced enough to take such accolades with a pinch of salt as most often than not they are orchestrated and not real so I simply ignored accordingly and moved on. However, my indifference was altered very swiftly when an individual whom I have come to respect as quite discerning towed the same line as Don Jazzy`s army of fans.
He wrote this – “I PLAY THIS SONG 20 TIMES DAILY!!!!… DOROBUCCI.
Don Jazzy, thank you for showing the world that musical artistry resides in Nigeria too!!! It doesn’t get better than this…lol
Click on link and enjoy the video… Entertaining mix of Marvin All Stars!!!”.
These words forced me to listen to the lyrics of Dorobucci for the first time. I must confess the first time I came across the word ‘Dorobucci’, I thought it was some Italian song or even movie and I`m not even trying to be funny. Anyway, after a few rewinds on this song, I must opine that I couldn`t have disagreed more with all the ‘Dorobucci’ lovers.
Please find below the trail of conversation that ensued between my friend and I – Continue reading “My take on Dorobucci,Doro Fish,Doro me,Doro you,Doro mega” »